Powerful Lessons In Personal Change.

Part II of Overcoming Resistance To Personal Change.

Read on for powerful lessons in personal change to help recharge your mindset and put you on the right path to successfully manage change in your life...

Many people tend to be a bit too hard on themselves when it comes to their progress, seemingly for no valid reason. They like to hold themselves to such high standards for no reason other than to try to push themselves harder, but in reality, it might be detracting from their overall experience.

If you’re not able to be happy when you make progress, you’re going to have a hard time motivating yourself to keep on going, leading to you burn out or give up altogether before you achieve your goals.

Getting excited is a fantastic motivator in so many ways. It can cheer you up, make you want to do more, and keep you going by putting you in a good mood. You’ll often do your best work when you’re happy, and lesser quality work when you’re neutral or upset.

For this reason, you need to be excited when you make progress towards success, even if you might typically think it’s not a big deal. For whatever reason, people don’t like to get excited about small things. This is a powerful lessons in personal change. Always be appreciate for every bit of progress!

They think it might make them look like amateurs to be so worked up over such a small milestone, but who cares? The only person you need to compare yourself to is you. People who don’t like celebrating small victories are the same ones who have been sitting in a stagnant place for a long time.

Anyone who’s successful in a field would understand the excitement that comes with doing something small, but good. For example, if your dream was to become a novelist one day, you might feel really happy and proud of yourself if you were to get a page or two done that you were happy with.

For some people, they might look at that and think it’s meaningless, because some authors can write pages upon pages per day. However, just being able to appreciate little bits of progress like that can make all the difference in the long run.

Think about the difference between being excited about small progress and just daydreaming. On one hand, you’re making tangible, real steps toward a goal that you want to achieve in order to become successful.

On the other hand, you’re just sitting around not making any progress aside from being hopeful. Be happy that you’re able to put your money where your mouth is and actually accomplish something, no matter how significant or insignificant it might be.

Know When You Need to Recharge Your Mindset

It’s no small task trying to be successful. Most everyone knows that it takes a lot of time and effort to achieve your dreams, but if you just keep on pushing, you’ll be able to make it there.

This idea of being able to do anything if you try hard enough excites a lot of people, and so they’ll often try to work as hard as they can around the clock to make it work. However, what these people often fail to realize is that this kind of hasty work can end up with you burning out.

That brings me to another powerful lesson in personal change: People often burn out when they put in too much effort for too long without a break. As tempting as it may be to give it your all around the clock, it’s not a viable long term strategy.

Everyone, no matter how committed they are to achieving success, will burn out and not want to work anymore after spending too much time doing it. Burning out causes you to become lazy and indifferent toward the work that you need to do to reach your goals.

It can happen in just about any aspect of your life: your job, your social life, and even your relationships. If you spend too much time socializing, you’ll get sick of it at some point, and you’ll want to spend more time alone, which could lead to you hurting your social life overall if you isolate.

In order to avoid burning out, you need to know when you need to take a step back and recharge. If you want to become successful, you need to be able to not only work hard, but do your best work consistently.

You can’t do your best work when you’re tired, stressed, and burnt out. Performing mediocre work for a long period of time is far, far worse than simply taking some time to yourself to recharge.

Recharging means different things for different people, but for the most part it means taking some time off from working toward your goals and doing something that you enjoy.

This could be any number of things for any amount of time. For one person, it could be taking a day to go fishing, while for another it could be spending a few hours reading. Either way, as long as you’re doing something to take your mind off of work, you’ll be able to recharge and return to work doing the best job you can.

Serious Success Isn’t Based on Wishful Thinking

Daydreaming can be a powerful tool sometimes. It gives us a chance to get an image of what our ideal life would be like - a goal to strive for. Having this clear idea of a goal in mind is a very important part of becoming successful.

You can’t go very far without knowing what you’re going to do. However, daydreaming should remain as a tool for visualizing your goal, and it should never go far beyond that. For many people, daydreaming is what they spend a good chunk of their time doing.

They’ll sit around bored at work, imagining their dream house, their dream car, and their dream life. In the meantime, though, they’re not doing anything to actually help them move closer to their goals, but rather they’re just spending their time fawning over what their life could be.

This is a very unproductive mindset. Very seldom will anyone see any kind of success by just thinking alone. It takes so much more to make a successful person. You need to be able to put your thoughts into action.

I will take this opportunity to inject yet another powerful lessons in personal change: take real steps towards goals in order to make your life better overall- don't just dream-take practical steps toward those dreams.

It’s impossible for simple thoughts to actually progress your life in any way, but it’s been shown time and time again that action will get you where you want to be. Next time you find yourself daydreaming a little too much, take things to the next level.

You’ve seen that goal in your head, so you know that much. Now, you need to come up with a plan to get you there. Think about what your progression will look like from where you are now to where you were thinking about.

Having a goal alone doesn’t give you much help, but having a clear map from start to finish is a key part of becoming successful. Never be content with just imagining what your life could be like.

Whenever you have the opportunity, you should be taking actions in order to actually achieve those goals. Be on the search for another job, take some time to tend to your personal relationships - whatever it is that you need to be doing.

No matter what, you have to be doing something actively to get you there, rather than just hoping to wake up one day and find that you’re successful with no effort. Mere thoughts can’t get you anywhere.

Shelve the Fear and Stock Up on Courage

If you haven’t ever truly achieved success, then your path to it will feel rather daunting when you first set out. There’s a lot of uncertainty and nervousness that goes into taking on a task of that size, and that’s what drives many people away.

It’s something that forces you to get out of your comfort zone and makes you take risks, and many feel as though they just don’t have the courage for that. Truthfully, nobody really has the courage for that early on.

What separates the successful from the rest is that they’re willing to face that fear and push towards their goals even if they’re afraid. It’s only natural for you to be worried about doing something new and scary - you’re taking a risk.

However, risks can be calculated, so as long as you’re doing the right thing, you should be able to overcome those fears and push on. The first steps toward any kind of success are scary because they disrupt your sense of stability.

For example, if one of your major goals is to get a better job since you’re unhappy with your current one, the first step to improvement might be being willing to quit your job. That can be hard, since you’re so used to it, but it must be done.

If you can’t push on despite your fears, you’ll never even give yourself the chance to improve and achieve success. There aren’t many ways to prepare for the worry you’ll feel when you start to take on this task - you just have to deal with it.

It can hardly be ignored, but what you can do is face the task head on and see how it works out for you. You’ll never really know how something is going to turn out until it’s been done.

The courage that you want to use to be successful will only come with time after you’ve faced up to the things that scare you. Once you go in and ask for a raise or break off from a toxic relationship, you’ll realize that it wasn’t that bad.

After that point, you’re going to be much more inclined to take on difficult tasks, which will enable you to become more successful. The only way to get that courage, though, is to take on something that terrifies you first.

Study the Great Minds of Successful Role Models

People are sometimes down on themselves when it comes to attempting to achieve certain goals - especially when they think that they’re not capable of becoming successful.

This can be for any number of reasons, but one prevailing reason that’s been seen time and time again is that they weren’t brought up in a family or area conducive to seeing their dreams come to fruition.

This makes it feel as if you weren’t able to become successful from the start, but in reality, there have been many great minds that came from little to nothing. Having inspiration and a role model when it comes to your success is such an important thing.

It’s not nearly as easy pursuing success when you’re having to do it all alone and as your own guide. By having someone to look up to in terms of mindset and motivation, you’re giving yourself an opportunity to follow someone else’s path to success and it’s already been mostly carved out, instead of starting from scratch with a brand new one.

These role models also provide you with the inspiration you need to get you through tough times. Despite feeling as if you’re destined to fail based on circumstances you can’t control, you can get a better grip on your life knowing that someone else has been in your place before, and despite their hardships, they still became incredibly successful and well known to this day.

These role models can be just about anyone. It could be a famous leader, artist, inventor - anyone. So many of these figures came from poor backgrounds that you would think would’ve held them back from their dreams, but they prevailed anyway and became someone that you can look up to and draw inspiration from.

As long as they give you hope for your path to success, they’re a good role model. When you’re admiring your role model, don’t just admire the simple things about them - like where they came from and where they ended up.

Do a bit of research and study the can-do attitude and mindset they had, study what plans they came up with to overcome their hardships and achieve great things. You’ll sometimes be able to find an autobiography about them that might go into a great amount of detail about their struggles with becoming successful. Regardless of who your role model is, this process is a great resource that can give you inspiration for your own path.

READ PART I: Overcoming Resistance To Personal Change. A Few Practical Tips.


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