Positive Self Talk For Kids

Positive Self Talk For Kids Examples

  • I am strong and courageous.
  • I can be anything I want to be.
  • I love myself unconditionally.
  • I am good enough just the way I am.
  • I create my own destiny.
  • I am lovable and I am loved.
  • I am a creative genius.
  • Everyday is fun and adventurous.
  • I am kind to others and they are kind to me.

How to Create Positive Self Talk For Kids

Are you exploring ways to cultivate healthy self esteem, grow in confidence and increase effectiveness in everyday life? Do you wish this for your children as well?

Self talk is a concept that's worth becoming aware of. While most people don't talk out loud to themselves, every person experiences a running stream of consciousness that guides them through life.

Who put these thoughts in your head? Were you just born with them? Actually, no. Your self talk is largely influenced by other people. It all began with your parents or earliest care givers, and the advice they gave, or the remarks they made in your presence, and the ongoing commentary that was often directed at you.

Once we have children, we pass along the voice of our own self talk... the one that our parents formed in our own minds when we were young and impressionable and in need of their guidance. So in a way, the self talk that echoes in your adult psyche is at least somewhat comprised of recycled messages that your parents sent you, and that your parents' parents gave to them, and so on.

It's up to you to become more aware of the types of thoughts that your self talk reveals, and actively choose which messages to pass along to your children. This can become a very psychologically clearing process if you let it. The transformation begins with becoming mindful of your parenting words.

  • Do you pay attention to what comes out of your mouth when you speak to your children?
  • Do the words you say when in public with your family differ greatly from the words you use at home?
  • What about stress, and how your emotional triggers might affect what you say to your kids?

Remember that you are the primary influence for future self talk that your children will hear from deep within their psyche as they face the trials and tribulations of life.

If you want to give your children the gift of healthy self esteem, select only the best of the best messages that your own parents sent to you.

So what did your parents say? You may not remember offhand. But you can if you try.

Each time you open your mouth to fill your children's heads and hearts with cautionary tales, words of wisdom, praise and encouragement, instruction, admonishment or consequences... go back in time and run the statement through your own child-mind from long ago.

Do you know why you choose to give your kids this particular message? What is the tone and meaning that you're sharing? Is this advice that you read in a parenting magazine? Will the words fuel them with purpose? Or will they feel stifled and confused by what's being said?

And finally, do you recognize if the words originate from your own Mom and Dad?

If you hear the voice of your parents coming through loud and clear, to pass along to your own children, then ask yourself how you feel about both the message and your delivery.

Does the sentiment reflect your own parenting values, and the wishes and hopes that you have for your children? Will the words reinforce what's important to you, while respecting your children as individuals?

Do your words and actions fuel them with healthy self confidence, while also helping them retain a sense of humility and respect for all people?

Take this self talk exercise a step further.

Once you've begun to "see your own parents" showing up in the things you say to your own children, write down this self talk dialogue that's being passed on.

Take some time each day to think about the messages you're giving. Do they fit with modern-day societal constructs? Or can they use a bit of molding and reshaping in order to still be useful to today's kids and parents, and how life typically unfolds on any given day?

Remember that you play an active role in how your children grow up to feel about themselves. The thoughts they think will be largely influenced by you. So what kind of self talk will you gift them with?

Doing the above described exercise will help you come into full awareness that YOU have the power to avoid repeating the parenting mistakes of past generations. And in doing so, you get to be the voice of encouragement, the voice of reason, and the voice of self confidence and personal worth, in your own children.

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