The Tea on Overcoming Resistance To Personal Change. A Few Practical Tips.

Be Relentless in Your Pursuit of Personal Change and Transformation.

For many people overcoming resistance to personal change is a difficult thing. There’s so much to it that can make you uncomfortable, and people sometimes start to give up on it as a result, even if the end goal of that change is a positive one.

They don’t want to spend that time being uncomfortable. They’d rather live with the mediocrity and stay where they’re used to being. This kind of mindset is not one built for success.

Even though change might be difficult for you to process, you still need to be relentless when overcoming resistance to personal change. Go into it knowing that the change won’t be easy, but it’s something that needs to be done.

Without change, you’re not going to make the switch from a mediocre life to a successful one. If you don’t do enough to stick with the changes you’re making, you’re just going to spin your wheels and stay stuck in the same place for years to come.

Sometimes, this kind of mindset requires you to be super strict and stringent with yourself and others. If you really want to see that change occur, you can’t let yourself be dissuaded by others who don’t care to see you succeed.

There will always be these obstacles in your life - toxic family members and employers who don’t want what’s best for you - that you need to overcome. By being firm with your dedication to change, you’ll be able to surpass these roadblocks.

For example, if you were really dedicated to overcoming resistance to personal change in your career, you’d have a lot of things standing in your way. Your current employer would try to steer you away from quitting, especially if you’re a vital part of the company.

Your less supportive family members would try to get in your head, telling you that it’s too late now, and you might even have some doubtful thoughts yourself. Despite all of that, you need to be firm with your resolution.

You can’t let people talk you out of what you want to do. Only you know what’s best for you. You need to stop contact with those who try to steer you away from your goals, and remind yourself that no matter what anyone else tells you, the goals you want to achieve are possible.

If you let someone else talk you out of your pursuit of success and change, then you’re not ready to become successful. You have to be adamant about overcoming resistance to personal change and fulfilling your dreams and not let anyone or anything get in your way.

Don’t Let Your Mind Steer You Toward Procrastination

One of the most dangerous problems that could bring all of your efforts towards success crumbling down is procrastination. Procrastination can incite panic and stress, which each have their own detriments, but it can also prevent you from getting your work done on time and effectively, which could hold you back from succeeding.

As dangerous as it is, procrastination is a very common problem that many struggle with today. But no matter what you do, you can’t let yourself fall victim to it. At first, procrastination feels great.

You don’t have to expend so much energy working so hard, and all that stuff that stresses you out is out of sight and out of mind. You have more time to focus on the things that you enjoy, and you don’t have to put up with the things that you don’t.

You can reassure yourself that you’ll get that work done eventually, but right now you need some down time. Soon, though, the stress starts to creep in as your deadlines approach.

You always have this nagging, stressful feeling in your head, and you know you should be doing something else at the moment. However, you choose to ignore it as best as you can and continue on.

Besides, you still plan on doing the work soon. Then, you’re almost right upon your deadlines. You start to panic and freak out, feeling as if you don’t have enough time left to complete your given task, and now you’re feeling a sense of regret.

You fall under a lot of stress and you’re not even getting your work done very well when you are working. Instead of working, you’re still procrastinating by freaking out about how little time you have left.

All of that can be avoided if you stay away from procrastination at all costs. Treat procrastination like a plague - something so deadly you shouldn’t even come near it. Procrastination is such a slippery slope that it’s very tough to get yourself out of that slump once you’re in it, so it’s best to avoid getting down that path in the first place.

If you do find yourself starting to procrastinate, then change your cycle as soon as you can the next day. Instead of trying to overload yourself at first and play catch-up all at once, you should try to even out the work you missed across the remaining days, allowing you to return to a stable schedule without having to overwork.

Eliminate the Burden of Overthinking

One of the most dangerous things that you can do when you’re planning and actually going down your path to success is overthinking things. Overthinking is a very common problem for people, and it’s also one of the most destructive.

It can lead to you falling off your path, doing things poorly, and even giving up on your dreams as a whole. There’s nothing worse than thinking about something so much that you actually end up doing it worse than you would’ve before.

Overthinking occurs when you worry so much about something that you spend too much time thinking about it, and end up getting it stuck in your own head so there’s room for nothing else, eventually leading you to make poor decisions and fail.

People like this will get so caught up in all the semantics and little things that they forget the bigger picture and start to stress themselves out about things that barely even matter.

For example, you might want to ask your boss for a raise one day. If you spend the whole night prior thinking about all the possible questions he’ll ask you and rehearsing your entire speech again and again, you’ll start to stress out about all the what-ifs.

You’ll start to think about what happens if he asks you why and what if he doesn’t like your answer. After awhile, you’ll worry about it so much that you might just not ask at all – you’ve talked yourself out of a move toward success.

Chances are, if you would’ve just had a loose plan that could be flexible and adjustable, it wouldn’t have been a very difficult conversation. You’re actively making things harder on yourself by being so worrisome that you stress yourself out over little things.

A part of this whole concept of overthinking comes from a desire to be perfect and not make mistakes. People need to realize, though, that this isn’t a realistic goal to have. Everyone is going to make mistakes along the way.

It’s only natural. Instead of wasting your time and energy worrying about what might happen and freaking out about the possibility of something going wrong, accept that things might go wrong, and that’s alright.

Mistakes are perfect opportunities for you to learn, develop, and grow. Everyone learns through their mistakes, whether they’re big or small. At the end of the day, you’re still going to be alive, and you’ll have a great deal of newfound knowledge that can help you improve in the future.

Every Day is a Choice Between Staying Stagnant or Progressing

People have a skewed idea of what their day-to-day life should look like when it comes to becoming successful. When they’re formulating their plans for success, it’s more of a general idea of what their lives are going to become rather than a structured plan with daily or even annual goals.

An important key to becoming successful is realizing that every day, you can be making a difference to becoming more successful, so you need to be able and willing to take full advantage of that.

When you get up in the morning, you have a full day ahead of you to accomplish any number of things, all of which could either leave you where you currently are or help you progress to the next level.

Each day is a new chance to do things you want to do for improvement, whether that means tending to your relationships or getting something accomplished at your job. Either way, it’s full of opportunities for you to advance.

You should seldom just let a day pass where you don’t do something for the sake of improvement. Even on days when you’re just going to relax and recharge, at least you’re doing that with the intention of regaining energy for a better performance later down the line.

On days that you’re not recharging, you need to be improving on any aspect of your life that needs it. Something that a lot of people struggle with is getting back on track after they’ve fallen off the wagon of productivity with their tasks.

They always seem to feel like it’s the end of the world, and they’re not going to be able to go any farther. This causes so much disruption in their plans for success, because they just stop all progress, assuming that they’re not able to recover.

However, this is far from the truth. Just as each day is a new chance to progress, it’s also an opportunity to get back on track. You start every day with a clean slate, and from there you can shape the day any way you want to.

If you don’t have a productive day sometimes, it’s okay. Everyone has their bad days. What you can’t do, however, is just sit there and mope about it. You have to wake up the next day committed to personal change and with a plan to get yourself back on a better track than you were before.

Overcoming Resistance To Personal Change Requires You To Focus on What’s Going Well as Proof of Success

There are many aspects of success that can be intimidating, but nothing is more daunting than imagining the long, tedious road that many people have ahead of them in their efforts to become successful.

There’s always so much left to do, and it can be stressful and exhausting to think about. Instead of focusing on things like this, though, you can focus on the positive aspects of your journey to keep you motivated along the way.

Focusing on what’s going right in your efforts, no matter how big or small, can keep you energized about the future. As long as you’re still making positive progress, that long road ahead is no problem for you.

No matter how long your journey is, the most important thing to remember is that as long as you’re not stopped in your tracks or going backwards, you’re going to be fine - and one day you’ll come out on the other side successful.

Every time you do something right, every little advancement you make towards your goal, you’re proving to yourself that you are making progress. Don’t get all caught up in the rate at which you’re progressing - it’s not a race.

Nobody’s timing you to see how fast you can change and succeed, because those who sprint towards success often trip along the way. Take it steady and maintain a sense of balance, order, and confidence, and before you even know it, you’ll begin realizing that some of your dreams are coming true.

There are so many things that you can see as small improvements along the way, even if it comes from a bad situation. Say, for example, you had to break off a friendship with someone who was toxic and wasn’t supporting you as they should’ve been.

Inherently, this might seem negative, because you had to stop being friends with someone, but at the end of the day, you can look at it in a positive light, because that’s one less person holding you back from your goals.

When you look at all of these small advancements, think of them as proof. You might think that it’s so difficult to get to your goal of success, but don’t get all caught up thinking about the big picture. Focus on what you can do in the moment, what you’re doing right, and how it’s getting you closer every day to overcoming resistance to personal change and reaching your transformation goals.

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