It's okay if you are not ready for a relationship.

10 Reason You May Not Be Ready For A Relationship and there is nothing wrong with that.

10 Reason You May Not Be Ready For A Relationship

  1. The timing is off and you are not ready Period!
  2. You don't want to recklessly create soul ties.
  3. You want to focus on your career (getting the bag).
  4. You are in the process of healing from something (or someone).
  5. The person who wants the relationship with you is immature.
  6. The person who wants the relationship with you is toxic.
  7. You can't devote the time to a relationship right now.
  8. Relationships take work, and you don't have the energy for it.
  9. You don't want to rush into anything (and you don't have to).
  10. You just want to enjoy your single hood, without pressure.

“Being brave enough to be alone frees you up to invite people into your life because you want them and not because you need them.”-Mandy Hale

So you've decided 100 percent that you are not ready for a relationship. Good for you. It's not easy to admit when you are not ready to commit to another person. A relationship is a big responsibility.

If you are willing to follow your gut and avoid a relationship to take care of you first, you are part of a rare breed.

Most people jump into relationships blindly without any thought to whether or not they are ready for the responsibility of meeting relationship expectations that come along with that.

Relationships Are More Than Just Romance

Healthy relationships come in all types and sometimes they aren't romantic. The friends you have, the people you work with, and even the family members you spend the most time with can all impact how you feel about yourself and your life.

That potential impact alone is enough to stick to your guns if you feel you are not ready for a relationship.

The truth is, intimacy is far more than romance. Intimacy is a closeness of mind, body, and soul that fulfills all dimensions and needs. So if you ever start to feel imbalanced or used, confront the other person or get out of the relationship. All intimate relationships must be mutually beneficial, healthy, and happy.

Choosing relationships wisely can really make an important difference in your life. People who care for you will support and uplift you, rather than drag you down. Surround yourself with people who support you and share your goals, dreams, and values.

Following your intuition about not being ready for a relationship will help you avoid harmful relationships. In return you will gain a healthy confidence that will benefit both your physical and mental health.

When you are not in a relationship, is the time to notice toxic relationship red flags and tips in mind so you can attract positive, healthy people into your life!

“Single” is an opportunity to live life on your own terms and not apologize.” -Mandy Hale

Preparing for the Right Person Through Understanding Yourself

Here are some personal development and self awareness goals, in the mean time, to help you get ready:

1. Get comfortable being alone with yourself. Are you content with being on your own? Any romantic relationship you enter into should be because you care about that person and yourself. If it's only to avoid being lonely, it's probably not the best choice for you.

2. Figure out what you want out of life. When looking for a person to share your life with, you want one who shares your goals, dreams, and values. Avoid settling for less because your long-term happiness could be affected - and so could the happiness of your partner. 

3. Focus on your own personal goals. Giving up your dreams and desires for someone else seldom works well. Seek out a person who encourages you to pursue your dreams. When you've found one, that's someone worth paying attention to! 

4. Remember there is no rush. Choosing someone just so you aren't alone is unfair to both of you. The person you're looking for will appear when the time is right. Avoid trying to force it. Your time will come, when you least expect it! As hard as it may be, try to be patient.

“Single /sin•gle/ (adjective) - Too fabulous to settle.” -Mandy Hale

Love - to love and be loved - is one of the greatest joys of the human life experience. Unfortunately, it can also go very wrong. You could end up abused, neglected, and miserable - or worse.

It's important to know when you are ready to be in a relationship and to make wise choices in your relationships so your experiences with love can bring joy and fulfillment to your life.

Letting your heart rule your head is romantic, but you can keep yourself safe, both emotionally and physically, by making sure your head is at least involved in the decision making. When it comes to romantic partners, spotting any red flags that appear will help you have only healthy, strong relationships.

Another important consideration is your personal desire for a relationship.

What, specifically, are you searching for?

Are you doing the right things and going to the places that will attract someone who's a good fit for you?

Or are you just looking for anyone?

Asking yourself tough questions like these, will prepare you for when you are ready to be in a relationship.

Remember, there is not race or clock ticking. When you are ready to be in a relationship is when you should entertain one, not a moment sooner.

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