Live in the present tense and heal from overthinking  past hurts.

"Winners live in the present tense. People who come up short are consumed with future or past. I want to be living in the now." -Alex Rodriguez

5 Ways To Live In The Present Tense

Live in the present tense is the best way to overcome anxiety about the past or what may come in the future

Constantly thinking about the past and worrying about the future makes it difficult for many people to enjoy their lives. If you are always reflecting on what happened in the past and thinking about what tomorrow might bring, living in the present tense becomes impossible.

However, you need to understand that the only way of living a happier more fulfilling life is by learning to live in the moment.

Focusing on the present helps you to live life to the fullest. It enables you to live to the best of your abilities and keeps you focusing on what you have as well as what you are doing.

Living consciously or being present when working, studying, or talking to other people is the best way of improving relationships, getting what you want, as well as performing at your best. Therefore, prioritize living in the present and learn the most effective ways of doing so.

Top 5 ways to live in the present tense.

1.    Don’t dwell on the past.
Dwelling on the past and constantly thinking about all the bad things that happened to you makes it impossible for you to appreciate what you have as well as how far you’ve come. It keeps you concentrating on all the bad things in life and stops you from seeing the good things that are currently happening. Forgiving past wrongs and refusing to let them control you helps you to be more conscious of the present. It enables you to live in the moment by opening your eyes to everything right in your life. So, forgive past mistakes, wrongs, failures, disappointments, and live in the present.

2.    Stop worrying about the future.
“Do I have what it takes to reach this goal?” “What if this idea doesn’t turn out the way I’m expecting it to?” and “What if I fail” are expressions that can lead to self-doubt, and make it difficult to live in the present moment. Worrying about the future, your goals, your relationships, etc. will diminish your confidence and make you blind to present opportunities or the great things that are happening.

Know that you don’t need to have all the answers in life and stop worrying about the future so you can be more present when talking to other people, when working, or when doing whatever you are set out to do.

3.    Be conscious of where you are and what you are doing.
Absentmindedness is one thing that harms your work and relationships. Have you ever noticed how upsetting it is to talk to someone who is physically present but mentality miles away?  I’m sure you have. Being present when talking to others helps cultivate and maintain healthy relationships and proves that you are interested in what the other person has to say. It shows that you value your relationship so, be present when interacting with other people. It will also help you to enjoy your relationships and value them more.

Being mindful of what you are doing, avoiding multitasking as well as focusing on doing one thing at a time helps you to live more in the present. Therefore, pick one task and focus all your energy as well as attention to seeing it through before moving to the next one. This will help improve your productivity levels and keep you loving what you do which is the best way of living in the moment.

4.    Appreciate what you have.
Expressing gratitude is a great way of controlling your thoughts and focusing your mind on positive things. It enables you to stop focusing on the past or worrying about the future by fixing your mind on the present. Showing appreciation for what you have, what you overcame, as well as how far you’ve come keeps you concentrating on what you can do right now to achieve your goal. You think about your end goal but appreciate what you can do today to get there and focus your energy on doing what needs to be done here and now.

5.    Celebrate all your accomplishments.
Living in the present tense involves celebrating your victories. It involves taking some time off to recharge, reflect on your accomplishments, and be thankful for each one of them. Most people make the mistake of neglecting or failing to make time for celebrating small wins. Nonetheless, celebrating every victory or achievement keeps you appreciating your capabilities, the opportunities you have as well as the good people in your life who made it all possible.

It is a smart way of getting over the past and assuring yourself that you can achieve any goal you set. So, you don’t have to worry about what the future holds. It makes it easier for you to embrace every moment and pay attention to living in the moment.

Paying attention to small things is also one of the smartest ways of ensuring you always live in the present tense. Therefore, stop neglecting the little things in life, acknowledge them, pay attention to them, and appreciate them more.

Do not link your happiness to what happened or what is yet to happen
A lot of us go through life feeling miserable. We always feel like we are missing out on something. All we are doing is going through the motions as we wait for some big event to happen so we can be happy.

The media is to blame as it links happiness in these modern times to materialistic things. It has become common for children to be on anti-depressants while their parents rely on their work and social status to provide that euphoric high. We have reduced happiness to select moments in history and possible future events. Without them, people feel they have nothing to be happy about.

Ask many young people today their version of happiness. They will tell you about climbing the corporate ladder or earning more money or driving fancier cars and living in bigger houses. This is how we have many people stuck in jobs they do not enjoy. Most of us are slaving away for the opportunity to get promotions and big bonuses at the end of the year while we remain unfulfilled and miserable on the inside.

We should not put happiness off until tomorrow.

Society has put conditions to happiness that most cannot meet. So we think if we ride along, somewhere we will encounter happiness in the form of money, cars, or mansions. For some, happiness will come once they can afford exotic trips. For others, it will come when they meet the elusive one and start a family.

We are not happy because we link our happiness to people and things that may come. These offer temporary thrills because people can be here today and gone tomorrow, and the same goes for opportunities and possessions. You could have the job of your dreams today and lose it tomorrow. The same goes for money and property. True happiness should not come from what we have, lest it is taken away. It should come from within, starting with accepting ourselves as the true sources of any joy we can have.

Do not be hung up on the past.

True happiness is not about what happened in the past. Not that you should discount how the past has influenced your present. Past successes are good because they motivate you towards future success.

Remembering past battles you have encountered and conquered will give you joy and confidence that you can handle anything that comes your way. The challenge comes when you become so stuck in yesterday’s success that you cannot prepare for impending setbacks and failures, leaving you miserable when the inevitable happens.

Remember moments that brought you happiness in the past with fondness, but be deliberate about creating happy moments in the present. If there are memories of people who made you happy in the past and they are no longer in the picture for any reason, make brief trips down memory lane but seek ways to foster happiness today. Do not tie your happiness to those moments only.

What is happiness?

‘Happiness is an inside job. Do not assign anyone or anything else that much power over your life.’ Mandy Hale.

Happiness is a state of mind. It has little to do with people and events and more to do with your internal environment. Since it is something that happens within an individual, you can control how you respond to external factors that will try to dampen your happiness.

Make deliberate choices to be happy outside of specific events. You should not limit your happiness to times when you have your friends and family or spouse around you. Though it is good to keep them company and have strong relationships, you do not need other people to be happy.

To have true happiness independent of your past or probable future, you need to:

  • Enjoy every moment now, even when you are by yourself.Cheerful people thrive regardless of who is around. They are so comfortable on their own that they can enjoy every moment, even when no one else is around.
  • Not postpone your joy today for what might happen.
  • Live in the present and enjoy every moment as it comes.

Accept yourself, flaws, and all.

If you have ever been around a person with a jovial disposition, you know that they are confident in themselves, regardless of their flaws. To be happy, accept that you are the best version of yourself. No one else is like you, and that makes you unique.

Everything you feel you want to change about your look, you can own and make work for you. There are many people who are taking issues such as deformities and size and owning them so much that they are ambassadors for some of the biggest brands.

Plus-sized models are now so popular because of people who chose to be happy regardless of people’s opinions about their weight. It is all about accepting yourself as you are.

Do not compare yourself to anyone else. It robs you of your happiness. You will spend all your time chasing after the unrealistic image of perfection that social media portrays. Be you and you will be happy as you are.

Practice daily gratitude.

A merry soul is one that is appreciative of all the surrounding good. Cheerful people are content with whom they are and what they have. They express gratitude for the good deeds that others do for them. When your focus is on being grateful, you do not have time to complain. When you do not have time to complain, you enjoy life more.

It is possible to enjoy life daily if you take the time to be present in the now, regardless of what company you keep or what you have. Adopt enjoyable daily rituals that keep your spirits up. Your happiness is your responsibility. Let nothing rob you of it!
 
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