Knowing your value as a woman is a crucial part of nurturing your self worth.

If you don't nurture your self worth and know your value nobody else will either.

Knowing your value as a woman from scripture...

"Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man." (Genesis 2:22)

"God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them." (Genesis 1:24)

Knowing your value as a woman didn't become an important just because of movements for women's rights or equality. The importance of knowing your self worth goes back to the garden of Eden.

"God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them." Genesis 1:24

God created women in His image. That statement alone implies that you, beautiful lady, are a god-like creature.

You have unimaginable potential and the power that flows through your mind, body, and soul is phenomenal. But if you’re living under the cloud of negative thoughts and self-talk, then you are short-changing yourself.

Nor do you truly understand your divine makeup.

“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.” - Shannon L. Alder

Knowing your value as a woman goes back to the beginning of time. When God created Eve, He created her with purpose. God saw a need for her. She wasn’t just another creation, she was a special gift.

"Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man." (Genesis 2:22)

It's time to think about yourself in this way. You are an extremely valuable gift to those around you. You were handmade in the heavens for such a time as this.

Fashioned by the Most High God, El El Yon who created the world and reins over it and all living creatures give glory and honor to Him.

I find it interesting scripture doesn’t say that God ever asked Adam what qualities he wanted in a woman--thank God (just kidding).

As a matter of fact Adam was asleep during the procedure. God didn’t need his input because God knew Adam’s heart.

God knew exactly the type of woman that Adam needed and the kind of woman this world couldn’t survive without.

Ladies when God created you, He gave you the unique personality and characteristics that you have because that’s what He needed on the earth.When you believe that, you are on the path to fully understanding and knowing your value as a woman.

Your family needs you. Your friends and your church need you. And God created you as a gift to them- your quirky personality; quick wit; and your talent.

He needed you just the way you are. But it’s up to you to surrender to Him and allow Him to use your uniqueness for His glory.

If you’re spending your days critiquing yourself in a full length mirror, you’re focusing on the wrong image.

God never spoke of Eve’s physical appearance. We don’t even know, from scripture, what she looked like. We know that she was a loving companion to Adam, a mother, a nurturer and she loved and worshiped God.

Those were the important characteristics, not her external beauty. It’s the image that you have inside that matters to God.

And that internal image, if it is beautiful, will change and mold what you see on the outside.
Knowing your value as a woman, believe it or not, changing how you look on the outside. It's what's inside that makes you beautiful outside.

There are two questions I ask myself to determine whether or not I’m focused on the wrong image, 1) who am I trying to please? And 2) why am I so concerned with my outer appearance?

If neither of the answers has anything to do with God or the great commission (Mark 16:15, "And he said unto them, Go ye into all the world, and preach the gospel to every creature…", then it’s very possible that you focus is a little off.

Meaning, instead of being focused on God’s purpose and plan for your life, you’ve gotten sidetracked and are focusing on the carnality of everyday living.

The problem with self-judging or trying to perfect your outer image is that your body’s image is vulnerable to external influences like abuse, environment, toxins, and trauma. This is an obvious sign that you aren't knowing your value as a woman

And anyone of those can cause a great deal of damage to what you see in the mirror. Additionally, what you see physically can often be the after effect of what you have experienced internally-emotional stress, abuse, etc.

"knowing your value as a woman comes from your creator not from the opinions of others..."

At one time in my life I was so stressed I gained 30 pounds and my hair fell out in patches.

When I looked in the mirror, my reflection made me sad and angry. I wanted my hair back.

I wanted to lose the extra pounds, but I had to accept that my emotional healing was far more important than my outer appearance.

Through prayer, meditation, and daily walks I was able, thank God, to turn that situation around. And so can you if you’re experiencing something similar.

The woman in the looking glass is not the true Queen. It’s the woman inside you. The fruit of the Spirit that dwells in you is what makes you phenomenal.

Not a $200 bird feces facial (yes its real) or a $900 pair of Jimmy Choo leopard-print sling backs (Yes, I know. They are gorgeous).

But they don’t make you beautiful, you make them beautiful.

Always remember that. So many women are looking to the latest fashion or the next greatest cosmetic, juice, or extreme diet plan when the key to our peace, joy and fulfillment is our connection to the True Vine.

Knowing your value as a woman through the eyes of Christ...

Jesus said, "I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing."

There is nothing more beautiful than a tree or vine full of plump, juicy, sweet fruit. It’s a beautiful sight. And when you are connected to the true vine, my lady you are positioned to bear much beautiful fruit.

But, let’s say your outer appearance is really getting you down? Then what? Are you supposed to just live unhappy about the way you look?

The answer is no. You don’t have to. God has placed in you a spirit of excellence. It’s normal to want to look your best.

I read a forum post from a woman who was troubled by her age. She was in her late 50’s and depressed.

She went on to say that she hated looking in the mirror because she couldn’t stand her own reflection. Let me first say, no matter what age, you are still God’s child and as such you are invaluable.

Your life is precious whether you are age one or 101. While I don’t advocate plastic surgery, some women get it. It’s a personal choice.

There are other things you can do. Try a wardrobe makeover. Studies have shown dressing up improves your mood.

I just heard on a television show that most department stores offer free personal shoppers to assist you with selecting flattering outfits.

You could try that. If a department store is out, go to a thrift store. There are great finds in those little shops. Find some pictures of outfits online or in magazines and take those pictures into the shop with you.

If you like to wear makeup, try a makeup consultation. Style your hair a different way.

Let me interject two side notes here:

  • There is beauty in modesty. Our skirts don’t have to be short nor do they have to cover our ankles.
  • There’s no need for red carpet cleavage, but we don’t have to wear a turtle neck every day either. When we dress, we should be who we are, not who “they” say we should be.

Let’s make an effort to uplift and complement each other more. We are all sisters in Christ. We shouldn’t view one another as competition. Or be jealous of each other’s attributes.

The next time you observe something noteworthy about another sister, smile and say, hey I like that. Let her know her hair is nice. She looks great in that outfit. Or her presentation was on point. 

Your words just might be the kindest words she’s ever heard. And you’ll feel good too.

"Knowing your value as a woman helps you accept yourself just the way you are..."

Okay, I had to get that out. I never know who will read this-perhaps someday one of my nieces or future granddaughters (smile).

So, as we were discussing…for years as a young girl I recall being embarrassed by my ragged smile. I had wide gaps and the alignment of my teeth was severely off center.

To top it off I had an abnormal growth on my upper jaw bone that was noticeable when I did smile. I hated it. So I had surgery to remove the overgrowth.

It wasn’t very painful. I was sedated. But it was unnerving having the gum line sliced open and bone shaved off.

After that surgery and a few years in braces, I’m much happier with my smile. And I smile a lot more. It was something that bothered me. And I seriously doubt God had a problem with me taking time to improve my appearance.

With that said, pray first and then do what works for you. Do what you can to make improvements, if that is what you desire.

God wants you to look your best. So when it comes to your image do your best and pray about the rest.

"Knowing your value as a woman improves your self esteem and self image..."

Remember the serenity prayer, "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference."You can change your wardrobe, highlight your hair, lose weight, gain weight, and wear braces and so on.

But none of those things will fix the real issue. There is something going on inside you that is the core issue of low self-esteem or poor self-image. What is it?

Were you hurt, rejected, abandoned, or betrayed? So now you feel like you’re not pretty enough, smart enough, or good enough?

That takes us back to the two questions from earlier, Who are you trying to please and why are you trying to please them? 

Your self-improvements should be for you. Not because you’re trying to imitate what you see on MTV, BET, or any other media acronym. Be you in Christ. That’s beauty. That's knowing your value as a woman and knowing your value in Him.

But don’t forget, our soul is our first priority. Matthew 16:26 says, "For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul?

Or what shall a man give in return for his soul?" Jesus didn’t die so that we can look good in a bikini. He wasn’t beaten so that we can afford the latest in plastic surgery.

He sacrificed his life so that our souls could be saved. He gave us the right to abundance and blessings on earth and the keys to eternal life in heaven where we will live happily ever after in the presence of God.

If you enjoyed Knowing Your Value As A Woman, You May Also Want To Read Part 1, Encouraging Words For A Single Woman

*Note: The content for Knowing Your Value As A Woman was taken from a chapter of the ebook, Lord Deliver Me From Negative Self Talk 2: Woman Unleash Your Power visit this link to check out the reviews and comments: encouraging words for a single woman (Amazon.com link).


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