How To Overcome Negative Thoughts

If you're trying to figure out how to overcome negative thoughts, you're probably exhausted and experiencing overwhelming emotions.

I've been there. Motivating yourself out of this cycle depends largely on your beliefs that have caused a systematic thought pattern that keeps repeating.

There’s absolutely no way to have a winning attitude if you believe the negative thoughts that you are having. These doubts and fears are lies and will eat your self-esteem alive.

So my first recommendation for how to overcome negative thoughts: STOP BELIEVING EVERYTHING YOU THINK.

If you believe the negative thoughts, you will spiral. Your self-esteem will plummet and you will begin to harbor anger and resentment. 

Enter victim mentality. Now that you feel like a victim, the door is opened for more victimizing people and experiences to enter your life.

One of the most powerful things you can do is resist the urge to succumb to the negativity. The bible says when we resist this negativity, it will flee from us.

Examples of Negative Thoughts That Hold You Back

  • You’re All Alone.
  • You're A Failure.
  • You will never succeed.
  • You are nothing special.
  • No one will ever love you.
  • You will always be poor.
  • You will always be a nobody.

See those negative thoughts above. I didn't pull those out of nowhere. They were thoughts that plagued me for many years and still try to rear their ugly heads if I allow.

After the divorce, I felt alone. I was physically surrounded by people. My family (five siblings), friends, church members, co-workers were still around, but I experienced deep paralyzing loneliness.

I cried myself to sleep. I didn’t call family because I was embarrassed. I didn’t want to hear, “I told you so”. Some of them did “tell me so”. I dealt with it on my own AKA without God. In between sobs, I asked God, “Why?”

I kept everything locked inside. Depression set in. All I did was sleep, go to work, and attend Sunday service.

My doctor prescribed antidepressants. Days faded into restless nights month after month. I was no longer living. I merely existed. There was no joy. And certainly no peace.

I was breaking. In Luke 24, Jesus appeared to the disciples after the resurrection. Before descending into heaven, he promised them that he would send the Holy Spirit to comfort them.

That same promise he made to the disciples applies to us today. The Holy Spirit is within us to comfort you and guide us. Instead of focusing on the comforter, I placed more value on the physical presence of a man.

By dwelling on the loneliness, I cultivated it, listening to slow dreary music; avoiding family and friends; and crying myself to sleep. I believed the lie.

Now I know the truth. I know I am never alone! And his trying to convince me otherwise is hilarious. You are not alone either. Not today, tomorrow, not ever. You think you are.

It looks like you are. It feels like you are. But, you are not. You’ve been lied to. You may have been abandoned, but don’t forget God. He is still present. He is ever present.

Don’t focus on who you see around you. Don’t let the enemy force you into believing that God has left you to fend for yourself. God promised that he would never leave you or forsake you. Dry your tears. Forget about who walked out on you.

Forgive them and set yourself free. Recognize the one you need has been there all along- God! He’s always there, right by your side in the worship music; the kindness of stranger; the beautiful rainbow that appears after a storm. Jehovah Shammah is there.

"Failure defeats losers but it inspires winners."- Anonymous

"You Are a Complete Failure"

I know this negative thought. After my divorce, I felt like a complete failure. My son had to leave his friends and move to a new school. I had to move back home with my Dad.

People were gossiping and worst of all; I thought I failed God by getting a divorce. Maybe if I had been a better wife or maybe if I were more attractive.

Maybe if I didn’t nag, he would have stayed home more. I beat myself up with maybes, and what ifs. I did what Satan wanted me to do. Sit around crying, complaining and calling myself a failure.

I was so afraid of failing at marriage that I vowed to never get married again. How silly is that? Marriage is absolutely wonderful and there are millions of happy couples to prove it.

You just don’t hear about them. Think about it. You only hear about the ones that fail. People and things fail. Just because you fail does not mean you are a failure.

Failure is a pit-stop on the path to success. Make the stop drop your load and move on :-) Live in the present tense.

To make you talk yourself out of experiencing God’s perfect will. To make you so afraid of failing that you never try again. The enemies each time you try your chances of succeed increase.

He doesn’t want you to succeed. He wants you to break. The truth is God wants you blessed, filled with self-confidence, and empowered by the power that works in you- His power.

How To Change Negative Thoughts

Changing negative thoughts into positive isn’t really a thing, in my opinion. You don’t change negative thoughts, you replace them. No person or thing can determine your destiny.

God gave us dominion in Genesis over everything in the earth. If someone else's crab bucket mentality or negativity is threatening to break you or keep you from realizing your dreams, it’s because you are allowing it.

Take the authority you were given in the beginning. Don’t live life afraid that something is going to defeat you. Don’t just endure life, enjoy it. 2 Corinthians 3:5 reminds us that we are not sufficient in ourselves.

Our sufficiency comes from a much higher power than a negative thought. That inner power that flows through us all is God's power of love. It will cast out fear from every negative thought that threatens your peace.

It’s too powerful. 1 Corinthians 10:13 says: "... God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it."

How To Overcome Negative Thoughts

While putting on lotion the other morning, I noticed the scar on my right calf.  In the second grade, I burned myself leaning too close to a small gas heater while trying to get warm.

The burn blistered in the shape of the letter T. I didn’t realize that it had blistered until the pain started. By then, I was already at school. My teacher noticed my discomfort and asked what happened.

I showed her the burn and she immediately sent me to the nurse. The nurse gently applied medicated ointment to the area and wrapped it in gauze.

I don’t remember how long it took to heal. But, I do know that it wasn’t overnight. And even though it’s completely healed and painless today, there is still a scar.

Maybe you have been badly burned by life and maybe you’re still in pain, but you can overcome it.

Life may burn us, but we can and will heal when we apply His love, grace, and mercy to whatever we are facing. God promises to heal and His love will take away the pain.

Know the truth. "No weapon will destroy you." Believe it. Motivate yourself with faith.  There’s victory in you. But you have to be hungry for it.

You have to want it like you want air. You’re not washed up. You’re coming up. Tell yourself that everyday.

The daily repetition will sink into your subconscious and build your confidence. Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God (Romans 10:17).

Dump the burden baggage. A burden is anything weighing you down. Negative thoughts, fearful apprehensions, past mistakes, failures, screw-ups and toxic relationships- they’re all burdens and that makes them a baggage.

There’s no room for baggage on this trip. “You only get to experience each minute of your life once.”- Geoff Shaw.

Concentrate on making the minutes in your life baggage. When negative thoughts creep in don’t dwell on them, replace them with thoughts of God’s loving nature. How much He wants you to prosper in every area of your life.

How He allowed His own son to die for you? Because you are worth dying for- Isn’t that just amazing? Say it with me; I must be pretty special if Jesus, the Christ, thought I was worth dying for.

"Never give up on yourself. If only you face your fears with boldness of faith, you overcome the negative thoughts." -Lailah Gifty Akita

Your success depends on what you spend your time focusing on. Life can be a maze of problems and trying to figure out which way to go can make you feel like there is no chance of ever getting out of the hell that you are experiencing.

There is always hope.

"Life is a bowl of cherries. Some cherries are rotten while others are good; its your job to throw out the rotten ones and forget about them while you enjoy eating the ones that are good.

There are two kinds of people: those who choose to throw out the good cherries and wallow in all the rotten ones, and those who choose to throw out all the rotten ones and savor all the good ones."

That means nothing and no one can come against you and ultimately succeed in a way that will cause you irrevocable damage. The crabs in the barrel can't keep you down.

Are there positive effects of failure?

Failure Is Success In Progress- Albert Einstein

Yes. Failure can be positive.

There have been times in my life when people I thought were on my side turned out to be my biggest enemies.

It hurt to know that they weren’t really on my side, but were rooting for my failure and in some cases even formulating ways to hurt me. But in every situation, I was able to rise to the top.

It may seem that the negative thoughts coming against you are going to drag you down, but take heart in the word. They will not succeed.

Embrace your inner power. You succeed according to the power of God that works in you. (Ephesians 3:20) You have to own it! Even if you are going through tough times right now.

It is working in your favor. There are positive effects to failure. Know that.  It’s increasing your patience and your faith. Its helping you develop the faith you need to manifest the desires of your heart. This is how to overcome negative thoughts.

While you give God praise for His power you should be beaming with self-confidence because that power resides on the inside of you.

Your attitude should be that of a winner because there is no way you can lose when the power of the most high God is working in and through you every second of every day. Accept it. Believe it. Act like it is so.

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