To get out of your comfort zone means you will have to make conscious decision to:
You want to get out of your comfort zone and move forward toward success, but I can tell you from personal experience,its is a little bit scary.
Most of my life was somewhat sheltered (young child to young adult). I learned early on to hide my opinions (true self) and just fit in.
I went with the status quo and that was safe for me.
This kind of mindset doesn’t work so well for getting unstuck from comfort zones or for being successful in general, and changing the things that you’ve known your whole life is downright scary.
However, everyone goes through this at some point.
We are wired that way- to move from pain toward pleasure (read about pleasure principle)...
...but at some point in life something challenges your core beliefs and values and you wonder if you need to make a change.
Being uncomfortable may seem like a bad thing, but there are positive aspects to it and being nervous just means that you know you’re doing something that you wouldn’t normally do.
Take a step forward anyway. Do something out of character knowing it means progress is being made.
You’re no longer stuck in that same rut - you’re coming out from your comfort zone and shaking things up.
Be realistic, though, not everyone will agree with the steps you take to get out of your comfort zone.
In fact, some might be jealous, while others close to you may be afraid that you are leaving them behind.
It's not about them- the end.
Going into your journey to success, you’ll face a lot of adversity and struggles.
Lest you be discouraged and want to quit, you must know these things:
There will be times when you’re upset, feeling stuck in a comfort-zone-rut, feeling uncertain about life; and all kinds of things.
It's all part of the journey. This is why so many give up half way through.
The part of the journey that is tough, is not for the faint of heart. It's for the determined. (I am singing Eye of the Tiger in my mind- Lyrics here.
However, those negative feelings are greatly outweighed by the feeling of accomplishment you get when you start to reach your goals.
Eventually, you can learn to move through the fears and the nervousness and the worries. You breeze past the onlookers.
Staying in your comfort zone allows you to ignore some very common fears that keep 90% of people back most of their lives.
Even if you have to mask your fear with a smile at first, you’ll soon find yourself loving the newness.
New situations - New opportunities -New success - all because you broke through your comfort zone to move toward your success.
You’ll finally be breaking up the monotony of everyday life with new, refreshing experiences.
There are people who believe that nothing worth having comes easily. That's true to an extent.
Some things do need to be let go -that's another subject for another time.
But in the case of pressing forward on your success path, it is true. You’re trying to reclaim your natural power and change your life for the better.
And because you’ve spent so much time in your old way of living, it's going to be difficult even painful but remember if its not fulfilling you, you don't have to stay.
Leaving your comfort zone is a new mindset and lifestyle. It's a growth mindset and there is nothing stagnant about it.
It’s much better to have at least tried.
Even if you were to fail to become successful with a new strategy, you’ll be able to sleep better knowing that you gave it a shot and if you hadn't you would have never know and ended up with regrets later in life.
On the other hand, you might succeed and you’ll finally be able to live that life you’ve always dreamed of.
How would that feel?
One of the scariest parts of pushing through your comfort zone is deserting the parts of it that don’t do you any good.
Most people are used to very strict routines and a lot of stability in their lives, so this sudden change can be very worrying.
There’s a lot of uncertainty when stepping blindly into the unknown, hoping that it’ll work out for the best - but this is what it takes to become successful, and it’ll certainly be a risk worth taking.
For example, you might find that it’s a terrifying idea to quit your job and try to do something completely different.
Many people would call this idea foolish, but that’s just because they’re scared of it, too.
If your true desire is to move from office work into law, then you can do that with the right plan of attack.
Of course you should be scared of doing this, since it’s stepping far outside of your comfort zone.
But in the long run, it’ll pay off. Overcoming your fears on matters like this is very important - otherwise you’ll just be stuck in one spot over the years.
Another difficult aspect of these lifestyle changes involves being willing to cut off toxic relationships (let it go).
So many people seem to keep in contact with family members who have wronged them time and time again, but in order to be successful...
You need to be willing to let those people go and sever your ties with them.
If a relationship is toxic and is dragging you down with it, then you won’t be able to fully recognize your own true potential.
As scary as it may be, you need to be able to ditch relationships that aren’t doing you any good.
When you make changes like this and walk away from a life that didn’t help you succeed, you’ll have to make lots of lifestyle changes.
It’s going to take time to adapt - that’s only natural.
Don’t worry if you trip up a few times along the way. Nobody’s perfect, and if you’re trying to relearn a whole new life, it’s not going to be simple.
You’ll have to change the way you act and think in order to surround yourself with people and opportunities that help you grow and eventually succeed.
Without making these changes and sacrifices, you won’t get the chance to move forward in life.
What if I regret it? This is a question that has kept me stuck time and again. Some people think it’s a great mindset to live by the motto of “no regrets,” meaning they’re going to live life to its fullest and take everything on positively.
This isn’t bad in theory, because it encourages living with a positive mindset.
That’s not expressly a bad thing, but in practice it takes away a very valuable resource for you in terms of motivation.
Regret, while it’s not a great thing to have and live with, can be used as a fantastic means of motivation when you view it in the right way.
People get riled up when they regret things that they once did or didn’t do, and have a desire to change it for the better and not return to their old poor habits.
A very important aspect of this idea is that you also have to move on after you regret.
You can’t let regret overtake you, so after you’ve used it effectively as a motivational tool and tool of change, you also then have to let go and find peace with it.
By dwelling on your regrets, you’ll be stalling your progress just as much as you would by ignoring them altogether.
It’s all about finding the balance between not having regrets and regretting things too much.
If you go too far on either end, you’ll be stuck making no progress, because you’re not taking full advantage of the motivation that you get from having regrets.
You need to be able to look at them critically without too much emotional attachment, understand what you did wrong, and then move on to coming up with a means of fixing that problem.
Regretting things is a perfectly natural response. It’s not a bad thing that we should feel the need to suppress.
If you’re always suppressing your regrets, you’ll more than likely feel them deep down, and you’ll end up not learning anything, either.
When you bottle up emotions like that, it can become very dangerous quickly. Take advantage of opportunities to learn something.
Even if it is something that you regret, just take what you can from it and keep moving forward.
Nothing useful is going to come out of dwelling on things, because you can’t change the past.
You can, however, change the future through your actions.
If you learn to use regret as a tool for your success, you can turn a lot of negative things into useful resources.
One of the greatest hidden dangers to your personal satisfaction in life that you might face is a repetitive, unfulfilling lifestyle.
While it’s obvious that major tragedies in your life are difficult to deal with, it’s far harder when all you’re surrounded with on a day to day basis is mediocrity and the mundane.
You might tread through life, day after day, year after year, feeling as though you’re not going anywhere.
After a certain point in time, you feel like you’re just running in circles - not actually getting anything accomplished -your comfort zone.
Being stuck in a rut like this isn’t necessarily obvious to you at first, because you’re not distinctly upset by it like you would be with something major.
You’re not extremely sad, but you’re not happy either. You're stuck in the land of apathy.
It’s like living in a purgatory, but over the years, this can really weigh down on your mental health. Not feeling as though you’re making any progress is a horrible feeling - especially after many years.
4 Tips to Get Unstuck:
Many people aren’t aware that they’re stuck until it’s far too late, and they’re already past the point of being able to do anything about it.
Instead, you have to catch the situation early, so that you can make the right course correction in your life in time for you to live the way that you want to.
This is a pretty difficult process to do, though, which is why it’s so often undetected until someone is elderly and looking back on all of their regrets.
There’s a lot of comfort to be had in the things that you already know. Going through life doing the same thing day after day does make you feel secure, because you already know how almost every day is going to turn out.
While it does have a lot less risk, it also has far less reward. One important aspect of escaping this rut is being able to pinpoint exactly what’s going wrong.
Accept the hard truth about where you are.
If you try to lump everything together, claiming that your life has just come to screeching halt, then you’re not going to be able to fix anything.
In order to fix something, you have to know what the exact problem is. Knowing that there’s a problem is a crucial step, but it’s not the most important part.
You have to be able to point out exactly what it is in your life that’s holding you back - whether that be your job, your home life, your location, or anything.
Only then can you start to make changes accordingly that will free you from the unfulfilling comfort zones of your life.
Read the related article about staying motivated and Getting Through Tough Times.
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